I am happy for you that you can have such a non hostile discussion with mom. My older JW relatives also can't belive they are still here, my mother in law actually says she will probably not live to see the new system. It's sad because they really put their whole life on hold and still do.
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Conversations with my 81 yr.old JW mom - Implementing a little Steve Hassan
by flipper inas some of you know my mom and dad have been jw's since 1951 .
since time began.
they are very respectful of my fade - and i have been able to talk especially with my mom about my doubts since leaving the org.
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DA !
by lancelink inwell i finally decided to send my letter to the boe.
it was a decent letter, i just stated that i no longer cared to be a jw,and that i enjoyed my time .
in the org, but it was time to move on.
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It seems to me the letter is all they need. I agree with you about not wanting to talk with them. I wouldn't want to waste one more evening doing something that pointless. Do you still have family in?
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Did You "Wait" On Jehovah or Did You "Run Ahead"?
by minimus inwere you ever counseled for "running ahead of jehovah's organization?".
did you have to be told that you needed to "wait on jehovah"?.
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Totally agree with Jeremy. It is thought blocking at it's best. It makes you feel guilty for what makes you human being able to think ahead, speculate and act accordingly. It's an excuse for people who don't want to take any action or responsibility for there own life. I have seen so many friends just paralyzed wasting their life away, honestly what do they think is going to magically happen. So no I am not very good at waiting, or I wouldn't be here.
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Do You Think You'll Really Miss This Place When It's Gone?
by minimus ini certainly will.. this place has strengthened me in my resolve to forever stay away from "the truth".. i've made a lot of connections here and have learned a lot.. jwd and friends----you will be missed!.
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Yes, immensely.
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Varying degrees of JW misery
by fern insince joining this forum, i have noticed the varying degrees of jw misery that people have experienced.
with a religion that is supposedly so accross the board and regimented, there seems to be a lot of difference in strictness on certain rules, etc.. i have many times talked about my unhappy childhood growing up as a jw but since joining this forum i can honestly say, i didn't have it nearly as bad as some who's stories i have read.
there was no incest or sexual abuse that i now of, and the attitude towards dfing was a little bit more relaxed.
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I totally agree that every one's situation and perception is going to be vastly different, there are just so many variables. For instance I have actually been in about 10 different congregations, have been single and been married. I've been part of a prominent family (dad PO) and I've been the daughter of a single divorce woman. Lived in areas where I knew everyone in the circuit and where I knew no one. I've been an adult without children and with children. There were times where my husband was a servant and when he was not. I think I was pretty much the same person but was treated differently depending on what the situation was. And then of course every congregation has it's own distinct personality which may change with a different CO or elder body.
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Around what age do most Witnesses leave the organization?
by RULES & REGULATIONS inmy congregation had 85 members ten years ago.
today,there are only 46. the ones that left the organization were mostly between 18-25 years old.
i haven't seen many middle-aged or elderly leave.
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I had periods in my life when I was so disgusted with some of the people that I wanted to call it quits, but never did. About 8 years ago in my mid thirties I had a real awakening after going back to college. Still didn't question major doctrinal matters until this year. Then it was just a perfect storm of my husband feeling the same things. When I had the final realization I could not go one more time and just quit on a dime. I guess I'm a slow learner.
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Did the WTS with all it's lies take away your interest in the Bible?
by RULES & REGULATIONS instill interested .
still read .
still study .
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I was just reading about cults today and apparently it is a common thread that they keep you so busy that you are robbed of any meaningful spirituality. That was true for me. You are so busy racing around to maintain the schedule there is no time for reflection. After deciding to leave I tried to just read the bible, but it's almost like the scriptures are stained by my JW lifelong mindset. I hope that changes one day.
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I am ashamed to say, the only good part about being sick , was not having to go to the meeting. I never thought it was healthy for little kids to be in a crowd, not feeling good and up pass their bedtime. But I used to notice that people would come sick or with sick kids like it was a badge of honor or something.
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My Wife is mentally ill and does crazy things diary.
by Witness 007 inluckly she is going to a mental health proffesional soon.. monday - bought her a nice hat as we were going to the races.....tuesday - she decides she doesn't want to go because of the crowds...wednesday - re-arranges furniture and tidies house from 8pm till 8am making lots of noise.
in the morning flys into a rage when i ask her to find library books that are overdue....rings a brother we know and tells him we are get divorced...she sick of them interfering {havent seen him in a year?
} tells him she will sleep with my father like in the bible so i can get an inheritance from him???....
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Sounds like a bipolar in a manic phase. Are there children in her care? I don't think she can wait for a mental health consultation.
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I think it's time for me to let some of my JW family members go...
by cognac ini came to this realization last night.
i got into an argument with my mother.
she said that maybe i should be looking at myself as the cause of hubby not becoming an ms. she said that i was not letting my husband make the decisions and not letting my husband be the head of the household.
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Wow, your mom and my mom should get together, they have so much in common. I thought that I could keep a superficial relationship with parents for the sake of the children, but StAnn is right the cult mind control makes it very difficult. At least my children are old enough to see it for what it is. There is not one conversation my older son can have with them. He was interested in the election this year and if he said anything he got "it's all going down anyway". If he talks about college they change the subject or say "college isn't for everyone". They can't talk about their birthday. They can't talk about their friends or they get a lecture on worldly associates. We are increasingly having less and less in common with them. I think my situation is a little easier because my husband and I are on the same page. Is your husband going to be taking the baby to the meetings? Will he allow your mom's influence to be stronger than you want it?